Self care, aware

Like I always say..it’a been forever y’all! I’ve been working working working working working…lol and trying my best to make the most of my summer with my girls! Sometimes I get so caught up in the day to day, that days become months and it scares the hell out of me. Especially with Ivory turning two- where does time go! And, literally Avynn lost her first tooth today- it’s crazyyyyy!

With working, and building a brand my time has felt so limited- I’m sure you all feel this way with your busy lives as well. Where do we find balance? How? Working out, seeing friends, 9-5’s, etc Welp, i’ve found that what’s been worse for me is pushing the “little” things to the side- which really aren’t so “little.” James and I have been working, picking the girls up, home, eat, sleep, repeat. This is why I find so much pride in working out and taking care of how my body feels/looks- in order to tackle my goals.

However, for way too long now, we’ve been neglecting the relaxation time of being a family. Our car was cluttered, our apartment was cluttered, and for months it’s been driving me insane. Why not just clean it? I gave up- I literally would clean to then see our car and our home wrecked in 2 days. It sounds so stupid coming out, but now I realize exactly why. I would rather spend time outside the apartment, with the girls whether at the beach, or an adventure. Then we would get home before dinner time, cook, eat, and sleep. I found myself not even wanting to be at home. I was escaping my own reality. IT SOUNDS RIDICULOUS I KNOW! 

So why did it take me so long? No idea, but how did I fix it? This is what this post is eventually getting to – haha

I have been meditating like crazy before bed so it honestly allows me to wake up with a clear mind, and a motivated one (on top of burning sage before bed and in the morning). I woke up helped my sister with my niece and nephew while she started her new job, and then I was hit with a crazy wave of motivation. I cleaned the entire car out, then stopped at the store to get new cleaning products, and ended up back at home putting laundry away, and cleaning every single room top to bottom. James got home, we stopped at the mall to let Ave pick out some school clothes, and then stopped at the grocery store! I ran in, spent $100 in groceries, then went home and cooked a beautiful dinner, accompanied by some flowers that legit light up the room!

THIS TYPE OF DAY WAS EVERYTHING I NEEDED!!!!!!!!!!!

I de-cluttered my living spaces, and decided to make a huge meal so that I could bring left overs to work. I enjoyed a huuuuuge glass of wine- lol and went to sleep satisfied!

Most times going out to eat is enjoyable, although the girls make it crazy. Most times hanging at someone else’s house is enjoyable, but relaxing at home at the end of a crazy day is great.

I didn’t mention the fact that I got rid of an entire trash bag full of clothing that I ripped out of my closet. I felt sooooo amazing getting all of the junk out of my zone. And lastly, instead of spending $100 on a night out to eat I re-created one of James and my fav meals from one of our date spots (A twist on Rasta Pasta from Red Parrot)

Here are some photos:

If you can take anything from this post, know that all things in your space, affect your energy 100% so starting with where you lay your head is most important! Take time for yourself, it doesn’t mean spending $ or indulging all the time. De-cluttering literally gave me such a fresh start to this month!!

I have so much more to share with you all, hope you enjoyed

xx, 4o1fierce

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HI! HEY! HELLO!// Why I waist train

Like I always say…it’s been way too long. But seriously…it has. I had a notification sent to me that it’s been awhile since I’ve posted, and they’re so so right! I’ve been back to work, trying to balance everything else as well as keep up with this “blogging thing.” haha

But in all seriousness I really wanted to hop on here to make a habit of this again- not because I have to but I miss it. Writing for me/journalism has been a HUGE passion of mine, since 4th grade when I had to write my first “reflection” on Maniac McGee.

Blogging is like venting, however I love it even more for the inspiration-side. I blog clothing, and that all started while pregnant ( to help women/mamas embrace who they are always). It’s most beautiful when you feel comfortable in your skin! But I also love to blog to answer questions, give you all tips and tricks- as well as how I “handle” mom life haha

So starting today, I am making the decision to finally blog again- because I have been “fast posting.” This is when I just take photos on Instagram, with no explanations or tips- just to post quick, and keep my content up-to-date. Because of this, unfortunately I’ve been neglecting my WordPress blog as well as my Youtube Vlog. But.guys!!!!!!!!

I’ll be vlogging again before the end of July since i’ll be investing in a brand new camera- this means content upon content. And your fav-Life in the Fierce Lane (James and I raising two crazy, beautiful beanies)!

So end of the intro here, I want to finish this post before my lunch break ends!

For now on, I will be posting “short cut” swipe-up links on my Instagram that bring my readers directly here to read my blog posts! I don’t want to just be a “Scroll on an IG feed.” I want to make sure I’m embracing all inspirations through my blog.

Today’s topic that’s always asked about is totally fitness related! Especially relatable for my mama readers-Waist training!!

I know, I know I’ve heard it all- “it smooshes/moves your organs,” “it’s dangerous,” “it’s fake.” So I wanted to just clarify the amount of time you wear a trainer for/when you wear it matters most. I began waist training (on and off) since after my first pregnancy. I had a huge umbilical hernia after giving birth to Avynn ( allll 9lb 4.5oz of her) Yikes!

After working out between both daughters, short after Ivory was born I discovered my bloating seriously wouldn’t go away. I’ve always had a bloated stomach as a child/teen, so that wasn’t anything abnormal, but pain, fatigue and extra bloating caused me to undergo 2 surgeries. I had my hernia repaired after Avynn, and then again after Ivory.

My OBGYN suggested the waist trainer postpartum to help my abdominal walls “meet again.” I waist train for about 2 hours a day. It helps my posture, and I see an immediate difference afterwards ( especially with tightening of my skin).

I also wear my waist trainer while working out ( on days I have dairy/junk) because this helps my results quicker, as well as a huge sweat-out.

I find that wearing it while working out straightens my posture and helps me bang out my workouts 10x quicker!

After Ivory my stomach was crazzzzzzyyyy different so I even began wearing my waist cincher in blog photos to avoid the bloat on camera! I think this was the greatest little trick after giving birth, that’s a big controversy to a lot of people. I don’t feel my trainer is too tight or damaging! At most I may get red skin haha

If you guys have any more questions or want to know more tips about how I waist train ( what creams I use, what workouts I do with it, sizing, brand etc) comment here or send me a direct message on my Instagram at @kashaxmarie

There’s no such thing as an immediate “bounce-back” or a “snatched waist” after becoming a mama! What you see via the internet is 9x out of 10 : 1. purchased 2.photoshopped

Howvever, there is hope! With some tips and tricks my transformation is starting to shock me more and more!

xx, 4o1fierce

Mama matching!

Once again I’ve been working my buns off and spending time with family-neglecting my blog and letting time pass!

Happy belated Mother’s Day to all the strong mamas out there!!

I had a nice and relaxing Mother’s Day, I slept in until 8 haha and James surprised me with breakfast in bed and I sat in bed with the girls for hours just relaxing, eating, and laughing.

These are all the little things I haven’t had the chance to enjoy lately-we’re both always on the go and haven’t had some solid family time in a little over a month!

For Mother’s Day I decided to whip out these adorable matching dresses from Pat Pat!

The weather here in Rhode Island has been so up and down, but let me tell you-I’m sooo obsessed with how easy it is to get ready especially with my 2 girls-throw on their dresses and we are out the door!

These dresses were so cute I know I’ll transition them into fall with some leggings, booties, and cardigans for the 3 of us!

You can use my code ‘Fierce12’ to save- you’ll be obsessed with how inexpensive their clothing is for such great quality!!

Spring peakin’ w/prints!

Another day that started beautiful, and then reminds us how crazy New England weather is -eye roll

March is almost over and the minute the sun shines, best believe I’ve been taking full advantage haha

I’ve had this outfit for months and months but finally decided to whip it out! I looooove love love love love love mixing. I’ve been called tacky, corny, old-grandpa-ish

I want to focus on skirts today! Since I was younger I was so self conscious of my legs (especially in skirts). They resembled 2 toothpicks, then two hot dogs haha

However, I never realized how versatile they could be!! I’ve worn this skirt on the weekend with a graphic tee and sneakers, and today I decided to dress it up!

Like I said a thousand times I love to wear prints, just wait and see how I begin to clash them!! Don’t be scared ladies, there are never any rules I swear!

I decided to pair this outfit with these little white booties for a classic twist! I was also in gooooood need of a tan-and some moisturizer on my knees- yikes

It’s been awhile since I’ve just put together outfits for me, for the sake of embracing my creativity. Sometimes we get so caught up in the day-by-day that we forget to outshine our creativity to the fullest.

This was also before I completely chopped more hair off- and toned it rose gold! Can’t wait to show you guys!

I guess you can say I’ve been itching for a change, and staying bold!

I purchased this skirt from my favorite local boutique here in Rhode Island called Elle G ( I’ve mentioned them several times-as well as included this skirt in a haul last month on my YouTube Channel). If you’re interested in this skirt here are my fav selling points-

•It has pockets!

• It’s stretchy!

• It buttons up instead of zips!

• Versatile material so it looks great dressed up or dressed down!

Purchase here – Gingham Skirt!

Also, I am wearing mine in a size medium! I suggest going a size smaller if you choose to wear it high waisted because without a belt I had some gap!!

Hope you all have a great Easter!

Xx, 4O1FIERCE

What is this weather?!

March 26, and the sun is slowly peaking out-I’m begging for nicer weather!!!

Yesterday was James and my 13th year together-knowing, growing, and loving. This week I finished my last mid-term, so over all I’m feeling accomplished, and ready for Spring. We all are. Our family also just went through a tremendous loss of a close family member so I’m struggling to keep it all together.

Life is precious, and powerful.

I want to keep this short and sweet- here’s a look I put together. Ladies-take a basic pair of denim and a t-shirt and make an over coat and your shoes the star of the show!

Details about my outfit can be found always on my Instagram at @kashaxmarie

Tomboy X

It’s been forever, I know I know! It was my Spring break this past week, and all I did was stress about 1 more mid term coming Tuesday- haha

James and I go to always go to Florida every year for our Anniversary, and Avynn’s birthday as well. This year we decided to skip the vacation and reach some bigger goals.

With being on-the-go (always) I promised myself I’d do more than just “throw myself together”, but let.me.tell.you. Menswear has been my go-to since pregnancy!

I teamed up about a month ago with a brand called TomboyX . I love what their brand stands for, they embrace all shapes and sizes-they sell bras and underwear. I decided to wear my 9″ briefs in a menswear look that was so so comfy!

I loved the color of these boxers, and how soft they are. These are from their Micromodal collection! I have another pair I’ll be capturing soon. James is already fighting me for these.

Hopefully we will be seeing more of a glimpse of Spring soon-I love taking basic shoes and a basic top, and having shorts/skirt as the highlight!

Chopped!

Spring has sprung!! haha totally kidding but this weather is getting us excited right?! The cold wind isn’t my favorite thing, but let me tell you I’ve been smiling my entire walk to class.

Mid-terms are almost over for me (1 left), and I’ve been M.I.A again. Today I wanted to keep things short and sweet! Friday I chopped my hair! I was soooo nervous going into the appointment, but I think all along it was excitement. Why did I chop it? 1. I’ve never ever ever been attached to hair. This is why I swear I’m a tom boy at heart 2. I’ve never been one of those girls who cried when their hair dresser went too short, or scared to try a new color.

Lately I’ve been creating more content, and I wanted something for Spring, a nice chic change. Not the same old hair that was screaming “soccer mom.”- (Nothing wrong with that p.s.)

However I want to make it known-HAIR DOES NOT DEFINE A PERSON. I get this 10x a week from a stranger- “wow look at all of her hair, so crazy” or “what nationality is she? look at that huge head of hair.” These are always stated/asked about my 4-year-old’s-hair.

Trust me, I don’t get offended by any of that, I love Avynn’s hair-never been more envious of another human being in life aside from her haha

Short hair feels so fresh, and new and I’m actually obsessed with it. I wish I would have taken the jump sooner in life if anything lol. I wanted to just point out that if you are looking for a cut (maybe not as short as me), make sure you’re going to a professional who has a picky, concentrated eye!

I’ve gotten my hair chopped this short 3x in my life, and this cut is by far insanely amazing. Ever go to a salon and take 1084973589437 selfies after because you know your hair will never look like that again? I didn’t have to do this, and I’m screaaaaaming! This cut is SO low maintenance, chic, and my hair dresser Wendy is insanely talented with shears!

When I get out of the shower, my hair falls exactly like it did when it was washed at the salon.

If you’ve been thinking of cutting, or trimming and you live in Rhode Island, please make an appointment with Wendy / really any of the ladies at Art Form Salon ! If you want to see their work, before and afters (featuring me as well) Make sure to follow them : @Artform_salon

 If you book through me you can actually save some mulah! Let me know if you have any questions, and to see photos of my new look head to my Instagram at @Kashaxmarie

xx, 4o1fierce

 

Less is more!

Happy February 1!!! Shortest month, but with the most goals I swear! I’ve never been obsessed over Valentine’s Day – however I wanted to at least get excited for something I love- Making less more!

Since I was younger I loved to take things from my closet and transform them. I loved DIY, and I loved to create and design my own outfits. When it comes to holidays and events 8/10 I decide to put stuff together that I already have in my closet. This way I always put my own twist on whatever I wear.

When the New Year came around I wanted to go through my closet and get rid of a tonnnn. I had the thought “less is more” in mind. Minimalism. I filmed a “Less is more with L’ange” video on my channel that I will be posting! I explain here how not only was my look simple and easy, but L’ange’s products make your look more, even only using 2 products like I did!

I have a lot of comments and messages sent to me weekly asking where I purchased this or that, or even just endless compliments saying “I love how you put things together,” “I love your outfit,” “style me.” It makes me happy knowing my creativity inspires other women.

I love to take clothes and transition them, I love to layer, I love to mix things together.

In my video I show you all how to take a simple shirt, hair style, and bold lip- and use these tips for any birthday, event, holiday, or night out!

Make sure to subscribe at – Life in the Fierce Lane

 

 

My healthy hair journey!

I’m bacccccck! I feel that out of all social media outlets I’ve been neglecting my blog the most, and I made a promise to continue to write, write, write. So now I will start overloading you guys with posts! If you do follow my other pages/channel you probably notice how much I’ve been posting about hair, hair, hair!

I work full time for an amazing company- L’ange! I love to hop on any chance I get to share a discount with my readers, because I’m telllllling you this brand will change your life!

First and foremost I’m such a low maintenance person in general, so I have always loved at least keeping up with a funky unique hair color-but ironically the first day out of the salon was pretty much the only day I wore it down and styled- haha

I just never took time/had time to straighten my entire head, curl it, you name it. When I discovered how quick and easy L’ange made it, I fell in loooooove; and began my hair journey!

Around this time last year I had super short, bright bleached platinum/silver hair. Loved it at the time-looking back now like yikes! Although my hair was freshly chopped it looked so dead, damaged, and sad. After trying out a few products from L’ange I knew I wanted to get more involved! I began using their purple shampoo and conditioner, nourishing gloss, dry shampoo, and root booster! (Not to mention their wand that i’ll never stop bragging about). Every single one of these products has made daily & weekly appearances in my hair routine!

I noticed not only did my hair look amazing, but it felt SO soft and healthy, and was growing like weeds! You can see all of my photos on my Instagram for first-hand proof! I only decided to chop my hair again because I’m not a fan of super long hair- all I do with long hair is throw it in a bun, and if it’s down I look like I’m 12!

After collecting a ton of tools and products from L’ange, it became life changing. Having a collection with everything you could possibly need makes it so easy to manage my hair routine, in such a quick and easy way!

Check out my journey through Instagram at @Kashaxmarie

And I also uploaded a video of my hair journey on my Youtube Channel – Life in the Fierce Lane

 

If you have any questions, or want an amazing discount feel free to reach out!

 

xx, 4O1fierce