Clarity

Tomorrow is the last day of the craziest year. I could go on for hours complaining about the goals I didn’t reach, the opportunities that didn’t work out, the “time wasted,” the tears, the downs, and that would never ever make anything better. Never beat a dead horse…right?

I began this blog years ago. I used to vent about my emotions, and it began when I was young; when I kept a journal, and my life was in a book, not on the internet. But don’t get it twisted, please..this is only a super solid glimpse at who my family and I am.

When I went through with 2 pregnancies, it was like a huge swarm of confidence came flying towards me. So I began telling my “story,” giving advice, and trying to inspire women around the world to embrace motherhood.

This past year has taught me so many lessons, I could write a book. And of course, as I said I can sit here complaining about all of it, or flip the script like I always have. No matter how hurt we as humans get, no matter how many obstacles we face; we survive. This world is ugly, but there is still so much beauty. I decided to post a “photo-free” blog tonight. This note is first for you, Kasha. You became Mrs. James Patrick Perry this year. You successfully completed a semester packed with 5 classes this year. You loved two little girls unconditionally for 365 days straight, why is that an accomplishment? TWO IS A HANDFUL!!! You made amends with old friends, you made new friends; new connections. You learned to let go, you learned to move forward. You underwent a scary, painful surgery, and still bounced back. You are strong, determined, and you can accomplish anything.

This note is for you, my reader. For some strange reason you find yourself reading this post. You may be bored, interested, nosy, but mostly you’re inspired. If you take nothing from my blog, nothing from this “year,” take this-

YOU are strong, you are not your mistakes. You can reach any goal you set. You can cry, you can be lazy, you can make excuses; but it WILL take you longer, and put you behind.

Life happens, we are all human. (This blog post is all over the place). We are breathing, and living in a generation full of lost humans. Humans confused, aiming for more, comparing, giving up, losing hope, faith, self-respect.

Don’t get lost. Although we hold our phones 24/7, hold reality closer; the little moments tighter. Text your friends, hug your friends, kiss your family. Don’t end your night angry, or start your morning lazy. Aim to inspire at least 1 person a day.

So many confuse “social media presence” to “social media absorbed.” So many “lose themselves” on the internet. So many have 2 sides. We record memories with phones, try to use your eyeballs. I did this so many times this year, and I’m proud. I’ve attended events, brought the girls to new places, and experienced so much with my phone in my purse and not in my hand; it felt amazing.

We are privileged to have technology so close to us, as long as you keep your feet planted deep down to earth, you will never become lost. I embraced all of my platforms this year so heavily, to contribute to my family finances. It felt great.

As we begin a new year, we all know how fresh it feels. We capture all of our memories within 365 days and bundle it all into a vibe. I cannot wait to run away from 2017-haha 

As 2018 approaches I hope you all have a safe New Year, and if you can take anything out of this post, take the fact that I am messy, I am human, and I am 150% relatable, so if you need advice, ask me. If you need a laugh, watch me. If you need a friend, I’m here.

We caved and made our Youtube Channel. After an insane amount of clarity, I remain humble and I am awake to reality. Making money from home is a blessing. Spending my days with my smart, growing baby girls is more than I could have ever asked for; and laying beside my best friend every night makes every day reality feel like a dream.

I cannot wait to share advice, inspiration, and a little piece of the Perry’s with you all. Our Youtube Channel is aimed towards Family, Fashion, Food, and Fitness. Life in the Fierce Lane will launch early 2018. I have insane amounts of mom advice, designs, tips, and hacks for all of you!

Have a blessed New Year!

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Wait….Winter workouts?!

So obviously we’ve all heard of “making summer bodies in the winter” right? I really never even attempted this until after I had little babes! You know the whole no shaving in winter? Haha let’s just say I used to hibernate my workouts all winter long pre-babies.

In today’s society I swear bullying is getting worse, and self esteem is dropping lower-let me re-phrase true self acceptation is decreasing no matter how much confidence people show online. I won’t get much into that today, after all this is about outer appearance I want to focus on!

After kids not only did my day-to-day life/school/work schedules change but my eating habits/workout habits/”lack-there-of” have all gone bonkers. After Avynn, and again after Ivory I developed umbilical hernias. This made my workouts super painful and made my stomach constantly bloat. After giving birth to these huge monsters my midwife suggested for me to grab a waist trainer and train 2 hours a day to help re-build my core. After undergoing a surgery to repair 2 huge hernias in July my workouts have fluctuated.

This post is for the Mama’s, or really anyone super busy who needs alternatives. Or maybe this post is for me-to motivate, to look back and see progress.

After Avynn my stomach was terrible. I carried a 9lb 4.5 oz 21.5″ beast , and once she arrived my skin was stretched, my stomach was scarred and marked. I did core workouts and used a ton of “wraps” on my tummy and almost 2.5 years later I was seeing results but never publicly would reveal my stomach (aside from family). However, my confidence remained because I gave birth to a mix of myself and the love of my life- life’s greatest gift.

It reminded me of childhood where I remember never judging myself, never caring about anything physically aside from how skinny I was and how hard it was for me to gain weight. I remember buying boxes of Twinkie’s and housing them before bed-lol gross.

After Ivory my hernias were worse-another big babe: 9 lb 1.5oz 20.5″ thanks Jamesy

Now after Ivory, I realized how much harder life was with 2. Guys….INSANE. Two girls is like having 20 I swear it. I love it though, I’m busy, or stressing 24/7. So when I’d want to bang out a workout I’d finally get Ivory down, while Avynn destroyed her room with dolls, clothes, and anything she could steal from my room.

I soon started chopping workouts in half-then I’d throw my waist trainer on and be out-the-door.

I slowly started slipping into a depression- life, unfortunate events, and lack of workouts took over me. So the waist trainer turned to a habit. Then I had my surgery. After surgery I had 8 weeks with no lifting-yikes

Depression grew and grew, I needed a boost quick. I hurdled over all of my downfalls and slowly started workouts again. Once I started my semester in September between classes I drove home while my mom still had my girls and I killed every workout. To speed up results I started using a scar cream from Celsus . They sent it to me just in time for my surgery and I finally whipped it out.

It’s now 5 months later and my skin is finally tightening, my abs are slowly creeping through, and my surgery scars are fading beautifully-esp with a fresh spray tan

Their scar cream is used for not only scars but stretch marks and also helps with anti-aging!

I’m offering a discount for anyone interested!

However, to complete this post I have a few tips to reaching those body “wins.”

First: Accept that you’re human, but don’t use that as an excuse. I did this for too long. Telling myself “oh well, you’re never going to look better you had two kids.” This is crap. Because I’m a strong woman, I bounce back; we all do. It’s mind over matter for sure, and I wish I screamed this in the mirror 4 years ago.

Second: Make time for you! I’m extremely blessed with way too much help from my huge family. My mom, my sisters, my brother, James’ family; everyone. Since day one if I had appointments, work, school, blog events, anything: I could count on someone. Don’t be scared to ask for help, or accept help. You’re not a bad person for taking some time for you. Don’t go crazy, just take a segment of time out of your day/week to get yourself pampered, go to the gym, escape life and read a book for an hour. Mine was going home and working out before picking the girls up

Third: EAT! No seriously, too many people stay so busy they skip meals. This was 2017 in a nut shell for me. First I started working 2 jobs trying to hustle-only eating breakfast then a late dinner after 9:30pm. Then I started classes and picked on snacks between classes-you could say the coffee diet was reaaaaaal. However I soon realized the only words out of my mouth each day was “ughh I’m so tired.” Breakfast is most important, we all know that, but all day we need to snack, and eat for energy- otherwise we crash, slump, and become lazy. Common sense right? So I learned to plan ahead. Left overs are perfect lunches. Eggs with peppers and onions cooks in 6 minutes-bam. And then, grab a protein shake, this gives me more energy than any coffee!

Lastly: Find balance. It’s the hardest part of becoming a parent let me tell you. It’s a tough feeling knowing you have to rely on someone else to care for your children so you can selfishly go to school or go to work. This is why I understand why people wait until career stages to have children. Or why people marry then have children-I don’t know how single parents do it-I’m so blessed to have James. I’m so blessed for my family for helping me. However, as I said it’s tough finding balance/accepting balance. You want to dedicate all of your energy into one thing; being a good parent, but spending time away from the girls to go to class or work kills, especially knowing someone else is with them so much. Or wanting to put all of your energy into taking care of your body but instead skipping meals. But we can all be selfish. Again, take an hour a day to do something for yourself.

I find flexibility in motherhood. I won’t workout every day, but I find 5 Days. I throw some Celsus on my stomach, clip on my waist trainer and keep it on for a few hours after my workouts. Not only has my waist trainer helped with workouts, but after workouts it makes my stomach feel so much better. You have to find what works best, what boost helps results come quicker. I always thought it was harder to workout than to be lazy but I was 100% wrong. It’s way harder being lazy. Because all the results we’ve built up, restarts and it’s 10x harder to step back up again.

Back in all black

Yikes, embarrassing how long it’s been since I’ve logged in here. I won’t lie, this year I’ve done so much reflecting. Reflecting pushes me away from opening up over social media ( this world is scary, people are too judgmental). Also, if this wasn’t a full time job for me (blogging), I don’t even think I’d want to “exist” on social media. But let me just say, social media for sure is so powerful. I’ve been networking with thousands of people this past year, and I can not wait to dive into 2018 with open arms. I have a ton to share and even more to experience!

With the semester ending, I’ve never felt more proud of myself to finally accomplish something great to show my girls! I’m finally one step closer to my degree-what’s even better than that? Being able to tap into my Creative outlets and continue to work on some amazing projects at home while the girls run around like crazy!

With a fresh start, of course I chopped my hair, and wanted to jump back into my blog with all-black-everything ….well aside from these white booties that I’ve been obsessing over for awhile now!

As always I’ll keep this short and sweet after saying-never ever let anyone over power your energy. Nothing for you will pass you. There’s never a “perfect time” for anything. Never put more effort lighting someone else’s flame, before first lighting yours! Actually, no : be the light, be the flame.

I allowed way too much to over power my thoughts, emotions, and energy. Then I realized wait: I’m a strong mother of two beautiful, smart, little girls. I’m in love with the most amazing best friend god could bless me with, and now I’m married to him for life. Not to ever boast, but just to remind myself; I already won. I have everything! Anything that comes next is just accomplished bonuses! Always aim for more, but never be dissatisfied with what you already hold close.