Dangerously fierce ft. Dress Like Me

Sheesh, I do this every time. I get caught up in life and realize there are actually people out here who message me and email me wondering when my next blog post is. It’s such a blessing it really is. And with that being said- I’m feeling dangerously fierce.

We are 1 week into summer and I’m feeling like a weight has been lifted, although no lie it’s been a terrible  past few months. Terrible should change to “unfortunate,” or actually know what? It’s been lessons and life. Eye openers have popped up, I quit my 9-5 four months ago and have had ups and downs ever since.

I battled for the last 5 weeks in my head about finances, until I realized money comes and goes and what’s most important is feeling whole. I feel whole. Wholeness to me is more important than happiness- because happiness is what can fade or overflow.  I battled wondering if picking up a job that may fade my happiness would be worth it- and then realized that my life is really just about to begin. I’ve had opportunities flowing in, and I am for sure on my divine path.

I wanted to hop on here again because I have had nothing put positive feedback lately and it really opened my eyes to how much of an impact I can truly make, and how many people I can inspire. I do not take the compliments and nice emails and messages to pump air to my head, because honestly I take these moments as reminders. I hear these words and they bring out the fire in me. I take these as signs that I’m doing what I am here to do. Heal, help, and move forward.

Life can get taken from any one of us in the blink of an eye. I had a high school friend pass away last month. My dad died and revived. God has been making me stronger, and my family makes me whole.

I disconnect myself from the internet a lot, because it allows me to reflect on the little things in life, and not even the little things- the realities of life; the importance of life. Social media is an outlet for money, inspiration, and what will help my brands launch. I’m taking all of my lessons in these past 27 years and making sure I can use them to help anyone in need.

I received a beautiful email with an article attached, written about my blog. I would love to share it with all of you. Dress Like Me highlights bloggers.

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The sweetest article reminding me of why I started this platform. This was so uplifting at the perfect timing! Thank you so much 🙂

And to all of you reading, take this reminder today to self reflect on how far you’ve come, and remind yourself of your talents, your beauties, and never stop embracing your flaws!

xx, 4o1fierce

 

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Therapy

Writing has always been my biggest outlet. I remember begging my mom for a small notebook that was shaped like a denim pocket- I found it at a gas station when I was young for $1.99. I remember her saying yes, maybe it was my grandma, I can’t remember- but regardless I got a yes.

Every day after school I wrote in this little book-stupid stuff, about my crush, or how a friend hurt my feelings. Then I took this book with me to my first Florida trip. I remember venting to my pages about how I was chewing my gum to avoid my ears popping, and I talked myself through staying calm with my pen to paper.

When I went to Universal Studios I had all of the characters sign in this book. When I got home I lost the book and was devastated- not for the autographs, but for my journalism. I feel like it was a connection with myself.

I remember in high school we wrote Autobiography’s. This was huge for me because I’ve always wanted to write a book, and although no one may have given a shit about all of the pain I put into the pages- I noticed how therapeutic pouring my heart into pages was.

When I entered college I almost wanted to go for journalism because of my passion for writing, but I soon realized I wrote for me, not for others- I still do. Well, and to the dozen of you who actually take time to read these words.

In Elementary I had the pleasure of having one of my poems published by Alan Shawn Feinstein. In middle school I won an essay writing prompt for the state. I just heard words in my head and put them to paper. My creative side I found at an early age with my words.

Years after beginning this blog I started to neglect it. I feel like bloggers blog to blog. Blog for money, blog to show off their materials, blog to inspire or give little tricks to their readers. It’s all great, but I stopped because I don’t like stereotypes. I don’t like calling myself an “influencer.” I am a leader. I learned that when my mental health was being sacrificed because of following a 9-5, just for a paycheck.

I am deciding to transform this site a little. I don’t want to post my fashion on here anymore. You can find my styling, my brags and boasts on my other outlets. I want to come back to square one. I want this platform to be used as therapy. Advice, inspiration; for all ages.

My whole life I’ve been transparent with people. My bosses, my family, my friends. Now at almost 28 years old I’ve learned huge hurtful realities: no one has the same heart as us. People only choose to share their best selves with us, and people may not even meet you 1/2 way when you exude 150%. Many of you probably already knew this. I already learned this, then had to re learn this lesson over and over until I finally learned to accept this. The reality is, some people are scared to be vulnerable, to trust 100% because a lot of us are misunderstood, and many people have allowed their trust issues to over power their faith. And this is okay! Because of this though, sometimes it’s easier for people to turn to podcasts, books, blogs to take advice, or listen to others. It’s comfortable for people to let their guards down behind closed doors.

I’ve always battled back and forth about allowing too much of myself on the internet, and in person over exuded myself to far too many people. However, in today’s society many people find comfort on the internet. It’s powerful man. Today I just want to keep it short and sweet and explain that writing really is the best form of therapy for me, aside from my at home workouts. My sister bought me a journal which I promised myself to write in on my bad days. It allows me to feel the emotion, and instantly release it. During New Moons I write to myself or those who have hurt me, or have a cord attached to me, and then I burn these pages and let them go.

If there is something you are going through currently that doesn’t go an hour without crossing your mind, and it’s taking a toll on your energy- write.

I began a book a few months ago and ended up deleting all of it. I noticed I was being too blaming on the conditions in my life, and realized I didn’t like the energy in the chapters. Crazy how thoughts become words and how powerful these run our entire lives.

Here’s my first post venting. Encouraging all of you to vent to yourselves as well. Go out and grab a journal. We all have phones- use the Notes app. Something about pen to paper is way more therapeutic though.

If any of you need advice, an ear, a shoulder- I’m here to help, answer, and listen.

Writing brings out the kid in me, what brings out the inner child in you?

Woah. Time to glow.

Guys!!! It has seriously been a long long long time coming. I re-downloaded my blog app, and I’ve never been more excited to share my journey with you all.

I always forget how therapeutic it is to write out my experiences. I spent the past 11 months working a 9-5. More like a 1-10pm that left me with very little satisfaction-but I pushed through, up until yesterday. Yesterday I decided to quit my job. Full force, no notice to my co-workers, no 2 week notice. An email sent, and boom I released myself.

It was time to focus all of my energy back into myself; My family. Before I am a mother I am a 27 year old strong, powerful, creative woman. I have so much to offer back to myself- and then the world. I needed to reinvest into my visions, my dreams, MY goals. Not 9 hour shifts that left me drained, regretful, and anxious. I had to do this, especially to make sure I was able to be the best mom and wife I can be.

Don’t get me wrong these past 11 months taught me so much about myself, the world around me, and most importantly it re-opened my eyes to exactly why I never wanted to settle for a corporate job- my dreams, goals and requests will never compare to a store managers goal to hit the month. I was slaving for someone else’s dreams that didn’t impact my mental health, nor my pocket.

I do not want to put too much regret into my experiences because as I said-this year has taught me so so so much! I met some amazing people, and learned all the lessons god gave me. Throughout this 9-5 life, I also got very very embedded in my spiritual journey. I met investors who believed in my vision for my shoe design, and I also applied to be Executive of Design & Marketing for a start up brand! If it wasn’t for my faith, and following my intuition, I would have never taken jumps towards these goals of mine.

Because of being so in touch with my higher self, I knew this is where my path had to end; and begin. I am finally in my power again, and right now I feel vulnerable but so sure about myself.

To anyone battling with depression, anxiety, overthinking, unhappiness, (any mental health battle) just know that sometimes it’s best to just push that reset button. If there’s something you’ve wanted to do and have been waiting for the right time: now is that time. We are the only ones in control of our own happiness. We cannot be happy with our lives unless we are happy with our present. And of course every day and every moment won’t be so “great,” but those were my 11 months. Not “great,” but I pushed. Just know that during those days I was still happy at how far I had come from even the 11 months before then.

I cannot wait to share more with you all-in hopes to inspire more like-minded individuals to jump. Take the dive. Live every day pushing towards your dreams-even the ones everyone thinks you’re absolutely crazy for.

It feels great to write again, talk soon-

Xx 4o1fierce

What is this weather?!

March 26, and the sun is slowly peaking out-I’m begging for nicer weather!!!

Yesterday was James and my 13th year together-knowing, growing, and loving. This week I finished my last mid-term, so over all I’m feeling accomplished, and ready for Spring. We all are. Our family also just went through a tremendous loss of a close family member so I’m struggling to keep it all together.

Life is precious, and powerful.

I want to keep this short and sweet- here’s a look I put together. Ladies-take a basic pair of denim and a t-shirt and make an over coat and your shoes the star of the show!

Details about my outfit can be found always on my Instagram at @kashaxmarie

Curling wand VS. Curling iron?!

Hey guys!

As you know my main focus lately has been about hair! Wanna know why? …After having baby #2 it’s no lie that I have less and less time. That’s two little girls anddddd me to get ready and out-the-door!

I was such a bun woman, haha throwing my hair in a bun, making my hair break! I swear the only time I felt happy with my hair was post-salon.

Once I discovered L’ange I’m not kidding my entire routine has changed. I use their 25mm barrel wand! I’ve tried out over 4 different “curling tools”, including using a straightener to curl my hair, but what I fell in love with was 1. Not only do my curls last 3-4 days, 2. I never “mess up.”I bet you know what I’m talking about, remember being young and having someone curl your hair with a curling iron and hating it so you had to rake your hair out with your fingers until you got home and brushed it all out?! Maybe I was just particular hahaI never ever liked the aftermath of a curling iron (yikes)- I got 2 perms before agreeing to get a curl from a curling iron. The downfalls I feel with a curling iron is that “curly sue,” identical looking curls-vibe.I feel that curling irons are “precise.” The barrels of them having an attached clamp forms your curls for you, or I should say- keeps them in place. However; I feel that the wand obviously is all how you control your hair, it’s just there to heat you up!Because I only have to worry about 1 step: wrapping my hair around it, I just feel like it’s easy, simple, and my curls come out however I want them to! There’s hair freedom with a wand- and healthier curls with L’ange’s wands! With the 25mm wand that I’ve been using, which you can see here “Ondule” , I can achieve beach waves, tight ringlets, messy flip curls-you name it! Also, the titanium barrel is so safe on my hair, it leaves my curls soft and bouncy, not stiff like I get from other curling tools! There are a bunch of different wands that L’ange offers, and I highly suggest trying one out-it saved my life- no lie!I can now curl my hair and have hair for 3-4 Days that looks like I “tried” haha (a moms dream right?)Ask me how to save! And check out these messy curls I achieved from my wand!

Power 

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Growing up whenever I would hear the word power/powerful I always thought it meant how strong someone was, and that to me was always physical. Years later power to me doesn’t just boil down to muscles, haha

I went through a huge funk this past year, and it allowed me to get back in touch with me. My passions, who I am, and what I love. Growing up I loved to read and write. I was super late in the game reading Girl Boss about 8 months ago, but let me tell you I’ve re-read it a thousand times; even just small excerpts to remind myself to never give up during those times when my overthinking brain screamed louder than my open heart.

Luckily I’ve been anything but negative lately, something has come over me and it feels so amazing! I picked up “Power of Broke” by Daymond John ( for those of you who don’t know Daymond he is the “people’s shark” from ABC’s Shark Tank).

To me, Daymond isn’t just the “people’s shark.” I remember growing up my older sister would rock FUBU and whenever she’d sleep out at a friends house I would steal her clothes and wear them…growing up with sisters man haha

So Daymond has always been a HUGE inspiration for me, mostly because of the fact that I could relate to him 100%. I remember years ago I was reading an article about him and his journey, and the one point that’s always stuck with me was his ability to build a brand out of his house-sleeping in a sleeping bag on the floor right nearby some clothes he had to ship out.

This image never left my head. I’ve received handfuls of advice about entrepreneurship from plenty of experienced people, bitter people, and helpful ones; but I’ve always felt they’ve never been delt my cards, felt my footsteps. And man when I tell you, Daymonds book is speaking levels. I’ve screamed YASSSS outloud so many times, and smiled twice as much.
I am the Power of Broke. Since day 1 nothing, ever has been handed to me. This is 100% the reason why success never came easy. I’ve always been lazy with excuses and doubts; telling myself nothing could ever happen for me. I’ve never felt things were in reach, or even at the end of the tunnel for that matter. This was until I became a mom. At first I let life beat me up a little, then I grabbed the gloves. Now I am hungry.

Never in my life have I ever felt so powerful, and a huge reason for this is because of the push. I’ve been pushing out of my comfort zone, and having faith in prayer. But guys, prayer is only so powerful ’til backed with action.

I’m on my way to a meeting that will push something I’ve been working on, and I can’t wait to share with you all. Reading to me, alters reality for me, well actually it puts reality back into perspective. Hearing multiple success stories has overwhelmed me with faith.

I want to thank you Daymond for your down-to-earth real advice. It’s such a breath of fresh air to hear reassuring words from someone who never let money change him. Just know you pulled me out of a depression-you gave no false hope, just reality. So I thank you. You hit it right on the head when you described the power I hold as an individual in my circumstances. The power of positivity is really what this generation needs.

If you guys haven’t had the chance to read, and you’re one of those who have been in a rut lately; he got you!

And in honor of power, you all know Red is the perfect symbolic color! I chose to mix pink and powerful. Pink was a huge theme of my first collection I dropped; then I snatched it back. I wasn’t ready, but now more than ever I feel so powerful. Ladies don’t be scared to colorblock-although James wasn’t feelin’ this look at first, he came around haha


Denim Dresses! 

The day before our last day in Florida was Ave + I in our Denim Dresses! A week before our road trip was Avynn’s 3rd Birthday, and my best friend purchased Ave’s adorable dress + fedora!

On this day, James, Avynn and I explored the neighborhood + fed the horses at the farm! The weather was overcast, and was also the perfect day for us to go thrift-shopping (my fave)!!

I’ve been styling Avynn since birth, and up until now she was always taking her accessories off and even her clothing- this baby hates clothing haha

Now that she’s 3-going-on-13 she loves to wear what “mommy wears” and she loves accessories, especially her shoes.

These lace-up gladiators I am so jealous of! I keep trying to snag a cute pair of lace-ups and they’re always sold out in my size! I believe these ones we grabbed from Target!

 

She loved this fedora, surprisingly because whenever we let her wear her hair down she usually wants it nice and free, haha

 

Our first stop of the day, after the farm was a little field next to my grandparents house! The grass was super long so we didn’t stay (I’m terrified for ticks)!

 

I have had these gladiator sandals since last summer, I snagged them at a shoe store in the Crystal Mall. Notice how she watches everything I do? Haha she wanted her foot up on the fence like mommy!


I wish I would have belted this shirt-dress, but I can’t even try to hide that belly! The denim dress was thrifted-I LOVE this one! Anything collared I snag! Also, my hat + sunnies are from H&M!

 Ave’s sunnies are from Children’s Place , and she refused to take off her birthday jewelry from my grandma, haha!
After the field we drove until we saw some pretty palms, because all I’ve wanted for a backdrop was some beautiful pops of color!

 


Again, I’m teasing myself + readers with these photos. We will be seeing sunny days soon!
Xx

4O1Fierce

All Black + Bicycles

So as you all know, we went on a road trip to Florida last week! As I’ve mentioned in a previous post, originally I wanted to post all of my adventures while down there. However, having a 3 year old now leaves only time to rest when we have some down-time. Instead, I decided to use Instagram + Facebook to leak little previews of our vacation-opposed to full-length blog posts on here.

Now that I am home and have a few days here with Avynn while James is off at work on a small trip, I figure what a perfect time to share now!

Before we left for vacation, I had connected with a local boutique—> Elle G that I love-to collaborate with them and see what they would like to be featured for Spring! I ended up pulling 2 of the cutest dresses with necklaces to match.

Last Monday I dedicated to wearing all black (per usual). We had a decently warm day,and since it wasn’t too hot it was perfect for all black, along with a bike ride around my grandparents community.

We loved putting Avynn in the basket and riding around (especially when she was tired).

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This necklace and dress were my 2 faves ! I literally won’t buy a dress or skirt without pockets unless I’m completely in love with it. This dress came with the perfect bonus (having pockets)!!

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Spring weather means I whip out all of my hat collection….well who am I kidding, I’m such a hat girl year-round. I feel that Florida screams “Sun hats” so I chose my black sun hat, along with my favorite fringe-y black flats!

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I thought the necklace from Elle G was the perfect length, and definitely complimented the vacation-vibes I was going for!

Because of this 18-week pregnant belly, I had to take a rope-belt and make sure to give myself a waist-line, otherwise I would be swimming in it.

How cute is this dress?! I loved the length and the sheerness at the bottom. If I was transforming this outfit to a night-time look, I would add some wedges, a slicked back pony, and a statement necklace.

You can shop this look at —> Elle G , they have 2 locations here in Rhode Island- 1 in Wakefield and 1 right in the Emporium at URI! In the meantime you can visit there page to give them a follow + stay up-to-date on their new arrivals! —> Shop Elle G on Instagram!

In regards to my Hat + cat-eye Sunnies, both are Steve Madden

And these flats were gifted months back, and they’re surprisingly comfortable + from Charlotte Russe

Lastly, one of my favorite lipsticks that I always smack on is my -“Meet Matt(e) Hughes Long-Lasting Liquid Lipstick” this product is by The Balm Cosmetics! I love love love this matte color! This stays on even after eating and the scent is INSANE. It is in “vanilla mint.” I received this sample in my October Ipsy Glam Bag and I use it atleast 3x a week. My small sample is still over-half!

mylove.jpg ^^ This little guy is my love for liiiiiife!

Hope you enjoyed my little splash of sunshine, hopefully Rhody will be seeing some sunshine soon!

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Xx

4O1Fierce

From Vaca to Fiancé

Hello!!!

I find when I’m in the best mood my words flow easier, so here I am back from Vacation and ready to ‘Journal my Journey.’ Our week in Florida was surprisingly great weather (other than a minor storm before we left). It was great seeing my grandparents, and even better watching Avynn enjoy the Sunshine State!

We had beach days, pool days, and a few days of sightseeing and Aquariums! I packed my laptop and everything to post for you all while down there, however by the end of each day I was so exhausted and in bed by 11 p.m. haha

Instead, I figured I would use my Instagram and Facebook “outlets” to give some sneak previews of some ‘mommy + me’ blogs! Now that Ave is 3 she’s obsessed with copying her momma, so most days we tried to match 😉

Instead of posting one HUGE vaca blog I figured I would start with my most favorite-Engagement Announcement! My Jamesy proposed on our 11 year Anniversary, and now I get to marry my very best friend! After so so soooo many years of ups and downs, we’ve always challenged ourselves to hash out our problems, and learn from our mistakes-which has led us to believe we will spend forever doing so. James decided to most the proposal video on Facebook, and I figured I would just leave it there for you to see instead of double-posting! I re-watch it a million times (can’t believe it’s real).

To all of you readers out there my biggest encouragement is to please please please never take advantage of your loved ones;if anything in 24 years I have learned this lesson over and over. I’m not sure why it took me so long to realize, but I always believed he was too good for me-he IS too good for me. If you find someone who never gives up on you, never let the possibility of losing them come close.

I’ve had so many nice girls from high school and one guy message me this week asking how we found “something so special.” I really didn’t go searching for James, when I least expected it, the one I least expected to “go for,” came to me. I only took the chance and said yes to a movie date, and it’s been since that night, he’s the only one I want now + forever. So many settle for less/deal with things they don’t deserve. I don’t blame those; everyone wants to be cared for. Don’t force feelings. Don’t re-paint true colors. The ones worth it will stay, others will give you a weird gut feeling. Trust your instincts. You’ll know it’s real when no one else-ever, can make you feel that secure.

Cheers to more years!

Xx

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