HI! HEY! HELLO!// Why I waist train

Like I always say…it’s been way too long. But seriously…it has. I had a notification sent to me that it’s been awhile since I’ve posted, and they’re so so right! I’ve been back to work, trying to balance everything else as well as keep up with this “blogging thing.” haha

But in all seriousness I really wanted to hop on here to make a habit of this again- not because I have to but I miss it. Writing for me/journalism has been a HUGE passion of mine, since 4th grade when I had to write my first “reflection” on Maniac McGee.

Blogging is like venting, however I love it even more for the inspiration-side. I blog clothing, and that all started while pregnant ( to help women/mamas embrace who they are always). It’s most beautiful when you feel comfortable in your skin! But I also love to blog to answer questions, give you all tips and tricks- as well as how I “handle” mom life haha

So starting today, I am making the decision to finally blog again- because I have been “fast posting.” This is when I just take photos on Instagram, with no explanations or tips- just to post quick, and keep my content up-to-date. Because of this, unfortunately I’ve been neglecting my WordPress blog as well as my Youtube Vlog. But.guys!!!!!!!!

I’ll be vlogging again before the end of July since i’ll be investing in a brand new camera- this means content upon content. And your fav-Life in the Fierce Lane (James and I raising two crazy, beautiful beanies)!

So end of the intro here, I want to finish this post before my lunch break ends!

For now on, I will be posting “short cut” swipe-up links on my Instagram that bring my readers directly here to read my blog posts! I don’t want to just be a “Scroll on an IG feed.” I want to make sure I’m embracing all inspirations through my blog.

Today’s topic that’s always asked about is totally fitness related! Especially relatable for my mama readers-Waist training!!

I know, I know I’ve heard it all- “it smooshes/moves your organs,” “it’s dangerous,” “it’s fake.” So I wanted to just clarify the amount of time you wear a trainer for/when you wear it matters most. I began waist training (on and off) since after my first pregnancy. I had a huge umbilical hernia after giving birth to Avynn ( allll 9lb 4.5oz of her) Yikes!

After working out between both daughters, short after Ivory was born I discovered my bloating seriously wouldn’t go away. I’ve always had a bloated stomach as a child/teen, so that wasn’t anything abnormal, but pain, fatigue and extra bloating caused me to undergo 2 surgeries. I had my hernia repaired after Avynn, and then again after Ivory.

My OBGYN suggested the waist trainer postpartum to help my abdominal walls “meet again.” I waist train for about 2 hours a day. It helps my posture, and I see an immediate difference afterwards ( especially with tightening of my skin).

I also wear my waist trainer while working out ( on days I have dairy/junk) because this helps my results quicker, as well as a huge sweat-out.

I find that wearing it while working out straightens my posture and helps me bang out my workouts 10x quicker!

After Ivory my stomach was crazzzzzzyyyy different so I even began wearing my waist cincher in blog photos to avoid the bloat on camera! I think this was the greatest little trick after giving birth, that’s a big controversy to a lot of people. I don’t feel my trainer is too tight or damaging! At most I may get red skin haha

If you guys have any more questions or want to know more tips about how I waist train ( what creams I use, what workouts I do with it, sizing, brand etc) comment here or send me a direct message on my Instagram at @kashaxmarie

There’s no such thing as an immediate “bounce-back” or a “snatched waist” after becoming a mama! What you see via the internet is 9x out of 10 : 1. purchased 2.photoshopped

Howvever, there is hope! With some tips and tricks my transformation is starting to shock me more and more!

xx, 4o1fierce

Advertisements

Mama matching!

Once again I’ve been working my buns off and spending time with family-neglecting my blog and letting time pass!

Happy belated Mother’s Day to all the strong mamas out there!!

I had a nice and relaxing Mother’s Day, I slept in until 8 haha and James surprised me with breakfast in bed and I sat in bed with the girls for hours just relaxing, eating, and laughing.

These are all the little things I haven’t had the chance to enjoy lately-we’re both always on the go and haven’t had some solid family time in a little over a month!

For Mother’s Day I decided to whip out these adorable matching dresses from Pat Pat!

The weather here in Rhode Island has been so up and down, but let me tell you-I’m sooo obsessed with how easy it is to get ready especially with my 2 girls-throw on their dresses and we are out the door!

These dresses were so cute I know I’ll transition them into fall with some leggings, booties, and cardigans for the 3 of us!

You can use my code ‘Fierce12’ to save- you’ll be obsessed with how inexpensive their clothing is for such great quality!!

Spring peakin’ w/prints!

Another day that started beautiful, and then reminds us how crazy New England weather is -eye roll

March is almost over and the minute the sun shines, best believe I’ve been taking full advantage haha

I’ve had this outfit for months and months but finally decided to whip it out! I looooove love love love love love mixing. I’ve been called tacky, corny, old-grandpa-ish

I want to focus on skirts today! Since I was younger I was so self conscious of my legs (especially in skirts). They resembled 2 toothpicks, then two hot dogs haha

However, I never realized how versatile they could be!! I’ve worn this skirt on the weekend with a graphic tee and sneakers, and today I decided to dress it up!

Like I said a thousand times I love to wear prints, just wait and see how I begin to clash them!! Don’t be scared ladies, there are never any rules I swear!

I decided to pair this outfit with these little white booties for a classic twist! I was also in gooooood need of a tan-and some moisturizer on my knees- yikes

It’s been awhile since I’ve just put together outfits for me, for the sake of embracing my creativity. Sometimes we get so caught up in the day-by-day that we forget to outshine our creativity to the fullest.

This was also before I completely chopped more hair off- and toned it rose gold! Can’t wait to show you guys!

I guess you can say I’ve been itching for a change, and staying bold!

I purchased this skirt from my favorite local boutique here in Rhode Island called Elle G ( I’ve mentioned them several times-as well as included this skirt in a haul last month on my YouTube Channel). If you’re interested in this skirt here are my fav selling points-

•It has pockets!

• It’s stretchy!

• It buttons up instead of zips!

• Versatile material so it looks great dressed up or dressed down!

Purchase here – Gingham Skirt!

Also, I am wearing mine in a size medium! I suggest going a size smaller if you choose to wear it high waisted because without a belt I had some gap!!

Hope you all have a great Easter!

Xx, 4O1FIERCE

What is this weather?!

March 26, and the sun is slowly peaking out-I’m begging for nicer weather!!!

Yesterday was James and my 13th year together-knowing, growing, and loving. This week I finished my last mid-term, so over all I’m feeling accomplished, and ready for Spring. We all are. Our family also just went through a tremendous loss of a close family member so I’m struggling to keep it all together.

Life is precious, and powerful.

I want to keep this short and sweet- here’s a look I put together. Ladies-take a basic pair of denim and a t-shirt and make an over coat and your shoes the star of the show!

Details about my outfit can be found always on my Instagram at @kashaxmarie

Tomboy X

It’s been forever, I know I know! It was my Spring break this past week, and all I did was stress about 1 more mid term coming Tuesday- haha

James and I go to always go to Florida every year for our Anniversary, and Avynn’s birthday as well. This year we decided to skip the vacation and reach some bigger goals.

With being on-the-go (always) I promised myself I’d do more than just “throw myself together”, but let.me.tell.you. Menswear has been my go-to since pregnancy!

I teamed up about a month ago with a brand called TomboyX . I love what their brand stands for, they embrace all shapes and sizes-they sell bras and underwear. I decided to wear my 9″ briefs in a menswear look that was so so comfy!

I loved the color of these boxers, and how soft they are. These are from their Micromodal collection! I have another pair I’ll be capturing soon. James is already fighting me for these.

Hopefully we will be seeing more of a glimpse of Spring soon-I love taking basic shoes and a basic top, and having shorts/skirt as the highlight!

Curling wand VS. Curling iron?!

Hey guys!

As you know my main focus lately has been about hair! Wanna know why? …After having baby #2 it’s no lie that I have less and less time. That’s two little girls anddddd me to get ready and out-the-door!

I was such a bun woman, haha throwing my hair in a bun, making my hair break! I swear the only time I felt happy with my hair was post-salon.

Once I discovered L’ange I’m not kidding my entire routine has changed. I use their 25mm barrel wand! I’ve tried out over 4 different “curling tools”, including using a straightener to curl my hair, but what I fell in love with was 1. Not only do my curls last 3-4 days, 2. I never “mess up.”I bet you know what I’m talking about, remember being young and having someone curl your hair with a curling iron and hating it so you had to rake your hair out with your fingers until you got home and brushed it all out?! Maybe I was just particular hahaI never ever liked the aftermath of a curling iron (yikes)- I got 2 perms before agreeing to get a curl from a curling iron. The downfalls I feel with a curling iron is that “curly sue,” identical looking curls-vibe.I feel that curling irons are “precise.” The barrels of them having an attached clamp forms your curls for you, or I should say- keeps them in place. However; I feel that the wand obviously is all how you control your hair, it’s just there to heat you up!Because I only have to worry about 1 step: wrapping my hair around it, I just feel like it’s easy, simple, and my curls come out however I want them to! There’s hair freedom with a wand- and healthier curls with L’ange’s wands! With the 25mm wand that I’ve been using, which you can see here “Ondule” , I can achieve beach waves, tight ringlets, messy flip curls-you name it! Also, the titanium barrel is so safe on my hair, it leaves my curls soft and bouncy, not stiff like I get from other curling tools! There are a bunch of different wands that L’ange offers, and I highly suggest trying one out-it saved my life- no lie!I can now curl my hair and have hair for 3-4 Days that looks like I “tried” haha (a moms dream right?)Ask me how to save! And check out these messy curls I achieved from my wand!

Clarity

Tomorrow is the last day of the craziest year. I could go on for hours complaining about the goals I didn’t reach, the opportunities that didn’t work out, the “time wasted,” the tears, the downs, and that would never ever make anything better. Never beat a dead horse…right?

I began this blog years ago. I used to vent about my emotions, and it began when I was young; when I kept a journal, and my life was in a book, not on the internet. But don’t get it twisted, please..this is only a super solid glimpse at who my family and I am.

When I went through with 2 pregnancies, it was like a huge swarm of confidence came flying towards me. So I began telling my “story,” giving advice, and trying to inspire women around the world to embrace motherhood.

This past year has taught me so many lessons, I could write a book. And of course, as I said I can sit here complaining about all of it, or flip the script like I always have. No matter how hurt we as humans get, no matter how many obstacles we face; we survive. This world is ugly, but there is still so much beauty. I decided to post a “photo-free” blog tonight. This note is first for you, Kasha. You became Mrs. James Patrick Perry this year. You successfully completed a semester packed with 5 classes this year. You loved two little girls unconditionally for 365 days straight, why is that an accomplishment? TWO IS A HANDFUL!!! You made amends with old friends, you made new friends; new connections. You learned to let go, you learned to move forward. You underwent a scary, painful surgery, and still bounced back. You are strong, determined, and you can accomplish anything.

This note is for you, my reader. For some strange reason you find yourself reading this post. You may be bored, interested, nosy, but mostly you’re inspired. If you take nothing from my blog, nothing from this “year,” take this-

YOU are strong, you are not your mistakes. You can reach any goal you set. You can cry, you can be lazy, you can make excuses; but it WILL take you longer, and put you behind.

Life happens, we are all human. (This blog post is all over the place). We are breathing, and living in a generation full of lost humans. Humans confused, aiming for more, comparing, giving up, losing hope, faith, self-respect.

Don’t get lost. Although we hold our phones 24/7, hold reality closer; the little moments tighter. Text your friends, hug your friends, kiss your family. Don’t end your night angry, or start your morning lazy. Aim to inspire at least 1 person a day.

So many confuse “social media presence” to “social media absorbed.” So many “lose themselves” on the internet. So many have 2 sides. We record memories with phones, try to use your eyeballs. I did this so many times this year, and I’m proud. I’ve attended events, brought the girls to new places, and experienced so much with my phone in my purse and not in my hand; it felt amazing.

We are privileged to have technology so close to us, as long as you keep your feet planted deep down to earth, you will never become lost. I embraced all of my platforms this year so heavily, to contribute to my family finances. It felt great.

As we begin a new year, we all know how fresh it feels. We capture all of our memories within 365 days and bundle it all into a vibe. I cannot wait to run away from 2017-haha 

As 2018 approaches I hope you all have a safe New Year, and if you can take anything out of this post, take the fact that I am messy, I am human, and I am 150% relatable, so if you need advice, ask me. If you need a laugh, watch me. If you need a friend, I’m here.

We caved and made our Youtube Channel. After an insane amount of clarity, I remain humble and I am awake to reality. Making money from home is a blessing. Spending my days with my smart, growing baby girls is more than I could have ever asked for; and laying beside my best friend every night makes every day reality feel like a dream.

I cannot wait to share advice, inspiration, and a little piece of the Perry’s with you all. Our Youtube Channel is aimed towards Family, Fashion, Food, and Fitness. Life in the Fierce Lane will launch early 2018. I have insane amounts of mom advice, designs, tips, and hacks for all of you!

Have a blessed New Year!

Wait….Winter workouts?!

So obviously we’ve all heard of “making summer bodies in the winter” right? I really never even attempted this until after I had little babes! You know the whole no shaving in winter? Haha let’s just say I used to hibernate my workouts all winter long pre-babies.

In today’s society I swear bullying is getting worse, and self esteem is dropping lower-let me re-phrase true self acceptation is decreasing no matter how much confidence people show online. I won’t get much into that today, after all this is about outer appearance I want to focus on!

After kids not only did my day-to-day life/school/work schedules change but my eating habits/workout habits/”lack-there-of” have all gone bonkers. After Avynn, and again after Ivory I developed umbilical hernias. This made my workouts super painful and made my stomach constantly bloat. After giving birth to these huge monsters my midwife suggested for me to grab a waist trainer and train 2 hours a day to help re-build my core. After undergoing a surgery to repair 2 huge hernias in July my workouts have fluctuated.

This post is for the Mama’s, or really anyone super busy who needs alternatives. Or maybe this post is for me-to motivate, to look back and see progress.

After Avynn my stomach was terrible. I carried a 9lb 4.5 oz 21.5″ beast , and once she arrived my skin was stretched, my stomach was scarred and marked. I did core workouts and used a ton of “wraps” on my tummy and almost 2.5 years later I was seeing results but never publicly would reveal my stomach (aside from family). However, my confidence remained because I gave birth to a mix of myself and the love of my life- life’s greatest gift.

It reminded me of childhood where I remember never judging myself, never caring about anything physically aside from how skinny I was and how hard it was for me to gain weight. I remember buying boxes of Twinkie’s and housing them before bed-lol gross.

After Ivory my hernias were worse-another big babe: 9 lb 1.5oz 20.5″ thanks Jamesy

Now after Ivory, I realized how much harder life was with 2. Guys….INSANE. Two girls is like having 20 I swear it. I love it though, I’m busy, or stressing 24/7. So when I’d want to bang out a workout I’d finally get Ivory down, while Avynn destroyed her room with dolls, clothes, and anything she could steal from my room.

I soon started chopping workouts in half-then I’d throw my waist trainer on and be out-the-door.

I slowly started slipping into a depression- life, unfortunate events, and lack of workouts took over me. So the waist trainer turned to a habit. Then I had my surgery. After surgery I had 8 weeks with no lifting-yikes

Depression grew and grew, I needed a boost quick. I hurdled over all of my downfalls and slowly started workouts again. Once I started my semester in September between classes I drove home while my mom still had my girls and I killed every workout. To speed up results I started using a scar cream from Celsus . They sent it to me just in time for my surgery and I finally whipped it out.

It’s now 5 months later and my skin is finally tightening, my abs are slowly creeping through, and my surgery scars are fading beautifully-esp with a fresh spray tan

Their scar cream is used for not only scars but stretch marks and also helps with anti-aging!

I’m offering a discount for anyone interested!

However, to complete this post I have a few tips to reaching those body “wins.”

First: Accept that you’re human, but don’t use that as an excuse. I did this for too long. Telling myself “oh well, you’re never going to look better you had two kids.” This is crap. Because I’m a strong woman, I bounce back; we all do. It’s mind over matter for sure, and I wish I screamed this in the mirror 4 years ago.

Second: Make time for you! I’m extremely blessed with way too much help from my huge family. My mom, my sisters, my brother, James’ family; everyone. Since day one if I had appointments, work, school, blog events, anything: I could count on someone. Don’t be scared to ask for help, or accept help. You’re not a bad person for taking some time for you. Don’t go crazy, just take a segment of time out of your day/week to get yourself pampered, go to the gym, escape life and read a book for an hour. Mine was going home and working out before picking the girls up

Third: EAT! No seriously, too many people stay so busy they skip meals. This was 2017 in a nut shell for me. First I started working 2 jobs trying to hustle-only eating breakfast then a late dinner after 9:30pm. Then I started classes and picked on snacks between classes-you could say the coffee diet was reaaaaaal. However I soon realized the only words out of my mouth each day was “ughh I’m so tired.” Breakfast is most important, we all know that, but all day we need to snack, and eat for energy- otherwise we crash, slump, and become lazy. Common sense right? So I learned to plan ahead. Left overs are perfect lunches. Eggs with peppers and onions cooks in 6 minutes-bam. And then, grab a protein shake, this gives me more energy than any coffee!

Lastly: Find balance. It’s the hardest part of becoming a parent let me tell you. It’s a tough feeling knowing you have to rely on someone else to care for your children so you can selfishly go to school or go to work. This is why I understand why people wait until career stages to have children. Or why people marry then have children-I don’t know how single parents do it-I’m so blessed to have James. I’m so blessed for my family for helping me. However, as I said it’s tough finding balance/accepting balance. You want to dedicate all of your energy into one thing; being a good parent, but spending time away from the girls to go to class or work kills, especially knowing someone else is with them so much. Or wanting to put all of your energy into taking care of your body but instead skipping meals. But we can all be selfish. Again, take an hour a day to do something for yourself.

I find flexibility in motherhood. I won’t workout every day, but I find 5 Days. I throw some Celsus on my stomach, clip on my waist trainer and keep it on for a few hours after my workouts. Not only has my waist trainer helped with workouts, but after workouts it makes my stomach feel so much better. You have to find what works best, what boost helps results come quicker. I always thought it was harder to workout than to be lazy but I was 100% wrong. It’s way harder being lazy. Because all the results we’ve built up, restarts and it’s 10x harder to step back up again.

Back in all black

Yikes, embarrassing how long it’s been since I’ve logged in here. I won’t lie, this year I’ve done so much reflecting. Reflecting pushes me away from opening up over social media ( this world is scary, people are too judgmental). Also, if this wasn’t a full time job for me (blogging), I don’t even think I’d want to “exist” on social media. But let me just say, social media for sure is so powerful. I’ve been networking with thousands of people this past year, and I can not wait to dive into 2018 with open arms. I have a ton to share and even more to experience!

With the semester ending, I’ve never felt more proud of myself to finally accomplish something great to show my girls! I’m finally one step closer to my degree-what’s even better than that? Being able to tap into my Creative outlets and continue to work on some amazing projects at home while the girls run around like crazy!

With a fresh start, of course I chopped my hair, and wanted to jump back into my blog with all-black-everything ….well aside from these white booties that I’ve been obsessing over for awhile now!

As always I’ll keep this short and sweet after saying-never ever let anyone over power your energy. Nothing for you will pass you. There’s never a “perfect time” for anything. Never put more effort lighting someone else’s flame, before first lighting yours! Actually, no : be the light, be the flame.

I allowed way too much to over power my thoughts, emotions, and energy. Then I realized wait: I’m a strong mother of two beautiful, smart, little girls. I’m in love with the most amazing best friend god could bless me with, and now I’m married to him for life. Not to ever boast, but just to remind myself; I already won. I have everything! Anything that comes next is just accomplished bonuses! Always aim for more, but never be dissatisfied with what you already hold close.