Mama matching!

Once again I’ve been working my buns off and spending time with family-neglecting my blog and letting time pass!

Happy belated Mother’s Day to all the strong mamas out there!!

I had a nice and relaxing Mother’s Day, I slept in until 8 haha and James surprised me with breakfast in bed and I sat in bed with the girls for hours just relaxing, eating, and laughing.

These are all the little things I haven’t had the chance to enjoy lately-we’re both always on the go and haven’t had some solid family time in a little over a month!

For Mother’s Day I decided to whip out these adorable matching dresses from Pat Pat!

The weather here in Rhode Island has been so up and down, but let me tell you-I’m sooo obsessed with how easy it is to get ready especially with my 2 girls-throw on their dresses and we are out the door!

These dresses were so cute I know I’ll transition them into fall with some leggings, booties, and cardigans for the 3 of us!

You can use my code ‘Fierce12’ to save- you’ll be obsessed with how inexpensive their clothing is for such great quality!!

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What is this weather?!

March 26, and the sun is slowly peaking out-I’m begging for nicer weather!!!

Yesterday was James and my 13th year together-knowing, growing, and loving. This week I finished my last mid-term, so over all I’m feeling accomplished, and ready for Spring. We all are. Our family also just went through a tremendous loss of a close family member so I’m struggling to keep it all together.

Life is precious, and powerful.

I want to keep this short and sweet- here’s a look I put together. Ladies-take a basic pair of denim and a t-shirt and make an over coat and your shoes the star of the show!

Details about my outfit can be found always on my Instagram at @kashaxmarie

Wait….Winter workouts?!

So obviously we’ve all heard of “making summer bodies in the winter” right? I really never even attempted this until after I had little babes! You know the whole no shaving in winter? Haha let’s just say I used to hibernate my workouts all winter long pre-babies.

In today’s society I swear bullying is getting worse, and self esteem is dropping lower-let me re-phrase true self acceptation is decreasing no matter how much confidence people show online. I won’t get much into that today, after all this is about outer appearance I want to focus on!

After kids not only did my day-to-day life/school/work schedules change but my eating habits/workout habits/”lack-there-of” have all gone bonkers. After Avynn, and again after Ivory I developed umbilical hernias. This made my workouts super painful and made my stomach constantly bloat. After giving birth to these huge monsters my midwife suggested for me to grab a waist trainer and train 2 hours a day to help re-build my core. After undergoing a surgery to repair 2 huge hernias in July my workouts have fluctuated.

This post is for the Mama’s, or really anyone super busy who needs alternatives. Or maybe this post is for me-to motivate, to look back and see progress.

After Avynn my stomach was terrible. I carried a 9lb 4.5 oz 21.5″ beast , and once she arrived my skin was stretched, my stomach was scarred and marked. I did core workouts and used a ton of “wraps” on my tummy and almost 2.5 years later I was seeing results but never publicly would reveal my stomach (aside from family). However, my confidence remained because I gave birth to a mix of myself and the love of my life- life’s greatest gift.

It reminded me of childhood where I remember never judging myself, never caring about anything physically aside from how skinny I was and how hard it was for me to gain weight. I remember buying boxes of Twinkie’s and housing them before bed-lol gross.

After Ivory my hernias were worse-another big babe: 9 lb 1.5oz 20.5″ thanks Jamesy

Now after Ivory, I realized how much harder life was with 2. Guys….INSANE. Two girls is like having 20 I swear it. I love it though, I’m busy, or stressing 24/7. So when I’d want to bang out a workout I’d finally get Ivory down, while Avynn destroyed her room with dolls, clothes, and anything she could steal from my room.

I soon started chopping workouts in half-then I’d throw my waist trainer on and be out-the-door.

I slowly started slipping into a depression- life, unfortunate events, and lack of workouts took over me. So the waist trainer turned to a habit. Then I had my surgery. After surgery I had 8 weeks with no lifting-yikes

Depression grew and grew, I needed a boost quick. I hurdled over all of my downfalls and slowly started workouts again. Once I started my semester in September between classes I drove home while my mom still had my girls and I killed every workout. To speed up results I started using a scar cream from Celsus . They sent it to me just in time for my surgery and I finally whipped it out.

It’s now 5 months later and my skin is finally tightening, my abs are slowly creeping through, and my surgery scars are fading beautifully-esp with a fresh spray tan

Their scar cream is used for not only scars but stretch marks and also helps with anti-aging!

I’m offering a discount for anyone interested!

However, to complete this post I have a few tips to reaching those body “wins.”

First: Accept that you’re human, but don’t use that as an excuse. I did this for too long. Telling myself “oh well, you’re never going to look better you had two kids.” This is crap. Because I’m a strong woman, I bounce back; we all do. It’s mind over matter for sure, and I wish I screamed this in the mirror 4 years ago.

Second: Make time for you! I’m extremely blessed with way too much help from my huge family. My mom, my sisters, my brother, James’ family; everyone. Since day one if I had appointments, work, school, blog events, anything: I could count on someone. Don’t be scared to ask for help, or accept help. You’re not a bad person for taking some time for you. Don’t go crazy, just take a segment of time out of your day/week to get yourself pampered, go to the gym, escape life and read a book for an hour. Mine was going home and working out before picking the girls up

Third: EAT! No seriously, too many people stay so busy they skip meals. This was 2017 in a nut shell for me. First I started working 2 jobs trying to hustle-only eating breakfast then a late dinner after 9:30pm. Then I started classes and picked on snacks between classes-you could say the coffee diet was reaaaaaal. However I soon realized the only words out of my mouth each day was “ughh I’m so tired.” Breakfast is most important, we all know that, but all day we need to snack, and eat for energy- otherwise we crash, slump, and become lazy. Common sense right? So I learned to plan ahead. Left overs are perfect lunches. Eggs with peppers and onions cooks in 6 minutes-bam. And then, grab a protein shake, this gives me more energy than any coffee!

Lastly: Find balance. It’s the hardest part of becoming a parent let me tell you. It’s a tough feeling knowing you have to rely on someone else to care for your children so you can selfishly go to school or go to work. This is why I understand why people wait until career stages to have children. Or why people marry then have children-I don’t know how single parents do it-I’m so blessed to have James. I’m so blessed for my family for helping me. However, as I said it’s tough finding balance/accepting balance. You want to dedicate all of your energy into one thing; being a good parent, but spending time away from the girls to go to class or work kills, especially knowing someone else is with them so much. Or wanting to put all of your energy into taking care of your body but instead skipping meals. But we can all be selfish. Again, take an hour a day to do something for yourself.

I find flexibility in motherhood. I won’t workout every day, but I find 5 Days. I throw some Celsus on my stomach, clip on my waist trainer and keep it on for a few hours after my workouts. Not only has my waist trainer helped with workouts, but after workouts it makes my stomach feel so much better. You have to find what works best, what boost helps results come quicker. I always thought it was harder to workout than to be lazy but I was 100% wrong. It’s way harder being lazy. Because all the results we’ve built up, restarts and it’s 10x harder to step back up again.

Triple threat 

Happy Wednesday! Happy October! I say this every time but it’s seriously been forever. I’m a busy bee, 5 classes is no joke, with 2 girls is even more hilarious: but needless to say I’m killin it! 

I’m working for an amazing brand right now (from home which is ideal), so I promised myself I would blog more and have the girls involved. I’ve gotten so many requests for the girls to be in the spotlight again and honestly how could I resist?! 

Avynn loves her photo taken, but Ivory was a whole different story haha- James was a trooper he kept chasing her then putting her in her “spot” and running out of the frame quickly


Cheetah/leopard made its way back on shelves and I’m not mad. I feel a sense of power wearing it, it’s so bold. The girls are animals so this was perfect for them 


I’ve had this top for years, and also I’m loving how faux leather is back! 

I tried to dress down my look with these slippers from Simply Vera Wang

Also, I love that I can dress this skirt up or down, with a blouse or a loose tee! 


Ave was in such a good mood she kept saying “Mama remember we used to blog when Ivory was in your belly?” Haha

I used to do anything to keep us out of the house while I was still pregnant  but having 2 girls is like having 20, I swear 

We grabbed some pretty cute shots, and how cute are their matching skirts from Old Navy?!You guys will also see a lot more of this bag! I’ve teamed up with Lily Jade-this is the chic-est diaper bag I’ve ever seen- obsessed! I’ll be posting on Instagram some amazing features it has!  

I’ll keep it short and sweet today- but I wanted to throw red into this blog set to symbolize the strength and power of family. Vegas is still in my thoughts and prayers, and it’s been so hard for me to shake. Hold your family and friends extra tight, all we need to spread is love more than anything. 

So Necessary

Hello again, Ave and I are on a roll here!

I received a package from Necessary Clothing and as you all know I’ve loved them for years! I actually had purchased some items when I was pregnant with Avynn! Anyways, I was in a rush to blog this outfit, mainly because once I tried the skirt on, I realized my belly stretched out the fabric wayyyyy too much, making it a tad-sheer. This skirt has the perfect casual-to-dressy idea, and I know I’ll be wearing this post-baby! I’ve  owned a million black skirts before, and I have to say I’m most obsessed with the length of this one.

Although the photos don’t show it (because as I moved the skirt rose up), this skirt actually goes right to the ankles! Ankle length almost always screams dressy, so I wanted to play-down that vibe.

James bought me some (Mother’s Day) classic Reebok sneakers which I’m pretty sure I had the same exact pair in middle school (but in pink-of course). And one of my favorite 90’s style trends aside from the skirts + skorts with sneakers, were the chokers! And man are they coming back! P.S.-James totally hated it, and told me Ave + I looked “gothic,”-how rude haha

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As I talked about in my previous post, I’ve been the Queen of DIY! This black distressed tee was also sent from Necessary, and for me it just wasn’t “destroyed” enough! I decided to pull at the holes that it came with, and also take clippers to create more holes! I love love love the way it came out, and it’s been my go-to black tee lately! I will definitely be checking out their site for more colors. Also….ladies, Although this shirt only runs for around $12, you can achieve this look so easily with tops you already have! – I did a few of my old shirts as well this week 😉

Avynn’s outfit was a complete- DIY! Her skirt is actually an old small tank-top that no longer fits, so I pinned it near her back, and gave it the “90’s tie-up” just as I did to my tee! Her shirt was a long sleeve that shrunk, so since the sleeves were already too short, we chopped them!

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With the sleeves we chopped from Ave’s skirt, we cut, rolled, and pinned those into chokers! And per usual, she has my look from head-to-toe (even looking down to copy my pose)

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Again, I am wearing my new watch seen here –> JWW from JORD!

If you didn’t catch my previous post, or announcement on Instagram! I teamed up with JORD for a GIVEAWAY! You have ’til May 29 to enter your email below in the chance to win $75 off any wood watch of your choice! And it’s still a win-win scenario, because even if you don’t win the big prize of $75, each person who enters still receives a $20 gift card to their site! So perfect!

CLICK HERE TO ENTER EMAIL! GOOD LUCK!!!!

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Any questions about the GIVEAWAY? Or questions about DIY, shoot me an email –> 4O1fiercely@gmail.com

Xx- 4O1Fierce

 

Denim Dresses! 

The day before our last day in Florida was Ave + I in our Denim Dresses! A week before our road trip was Avynn’s 3rd Birthday, and my best friend purchased Ave’s adorable dress + fedora!

On this day, James, Avynn and I explored the neighborhood + fed the horses at the farm! The weather was overcast, and was also the perfect day for us to go thrift-shopping (my fave)!!

I’ve been styling Avynn since birth, and up until now she was always taking her accessories off and even her clothing- this baby hates clothing haha

Now that she’s 3-going-on-13 she loves to wear what “mommy wears” and she loves accessories, especially her shoes.

These lace-up gladiators I am so jealous of! I keep trying to snag a cute pair of lace-ups and they’re always sold out in my size! I believe these ones we grabbed from Target!

 

She loved this fedora, surprisingly because whenever we let her wear her hair down she usually wants it nice and free, haha

 

Our first stop of the day, after the farm was a little field next to my grandparents house! The grass was super long so we didn’t stay (I’m terrified for ticks)!

 

I have had these gladiator sandals since last summer, I snagged them at a shoe store in the Crystal Mall. Notice how she watches everything I do? Haha she wanted her foot up on the fence like mommy!


I wish I would have belted this shirt-dress, but I can’t even try to hide that belly! The denim dress was thrifted-I LOVE this one! Anything collared I snag! Also, my hat + sunnies are from H&M!

 Ave’s sunnies are from Children’s Place , and she refused to take off her birthday jewelry from my grandma, haha!
After the field we drove until we saw some pretty palms, because all I’ve wanted for a backdrop was some beautiful pops of color!

 


Again, I’m teasing myself + readers with these photos. We will be seeing sunny days soon!
Xx

4O1Fierce

Arts + Crafts w/Ave!

Today was a gorgeous day! James started his second job so he had the car all day, so Ave and I had to improvise! For the past few months I have been home with Avynn, cleaning and keeping ourselves busy. A few weeks ago James and I picked up a bunch of Arts + Crafts so on days when Ave is CRAZY, it would give us something to do!

Today after cleaning out the kitchen, her and I found some old Sunflower seeds (we are all addicted to them). I remembered seeing a cute activity on Pinterest using Sunflower seeds and Construction paper!

All we needed was glue, tape, scissors, construction paper, Sunflower seeds, and Avynn’s hands (to trace) 😉

When I graduated high school and knew I wanted to be an Elementary School teacher I remember being so excited for school activities-and although I no longer desire to teach, I love Arts + Crafts, especially with Ave!

We had fun with flowers today!

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                                       -Xx

4O1FIERCE 

From Vaca to Fiancé

Hello!!!

I find when I’m in the best mood my words flow easier, so here I am back from Vacation and ready to ‘Journal my Journey.’ Our week in Florida was surprisingly great weather (other than a minor storm before we left). It was great seeing my grandparents, and even better watching Avynn enjoy the Sunshine State!

We had beach days, pool days, and a few days of sightseeing and Aquariums! I packed my laptop and everything to post for you all while down there, however by the end of each day I was so exhausted and in bed by 11 p.m. haha

Instead, I figured I would use my Instagram and Facebook “outlets” to give some sneak previews of some ‘mommy + me’ blogs! Now that Ave is 3 she’s obsessed with copying her momma, so most days we tried to match 😉

Instead of posting one HUGE vaca blog I figured I would start with my most favorite-Engagement Announcement! My Jamesy proposed on our 11 year Anniversary, and now I get to marry my very best friend! After so so soooo many years of ups and downs, we’ve always challenged ourselves to hash out our problems, and learn from our mistakes-which has led us to believe we will spend forever doing so. James decided to most the proposal video on Facebook, and I figured I would just leave it there for you to see instead of double-posting! I re-watch it a million times (can’t believe it’s real).

To all of you readers out there my biggest encouragement is to please please please never take advantage of your loved ones;if anything in 24 years I have learned this lesson over and over. I’m not sure why it took me so long to realize, but I always believed he was too good for me-he IS too good for me. If you find someone who never gives up on you, never let the possibility of losing them come close.

I’ve had so many nice girls from high school and one guy message me this week asking how we found “something so special.” I really didn’t go searching for James, when I least expected it, the one I least expected to “go for,” came to me. I only took the chance and said yes to a movie date, and it’s been since that night, he’s the only one I want now + forever. So many settle for less/deal with things they don’t deserve. I don’t blame those; everyone wants to be cared for. Don’t force feelings. Don’t re-paint true colors. The ones worth it will stay, others will give you a weird gut feeling. Trust your instincts. You’ll know it’s real when no one else-ever, can make you feel that secure.

Cheers to more years!

Xx

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Comfy Sunday’s with Skirts and Sneakers!

On my day’s off you would think I would have extra time to put myself together. Avynn gets so excited to see that I’m waking up with her, so from the moment I’m out of bed, I’m chasing her everywhere!

I try to find an activity for the day to get out of the house, and get all of her energy out! This past Sunday was gorgeous out, so we chose to go to the park! Avynn just turned 2 1/2 last week, so she’s growing out of everything!! We decided before the park to go pick her out a pair of new sneakers!

For Mommies on-the-go sometimes we forget how easy it is to just throw a pair of sneakers on. If you are like me, I feel I want to look presentable still, even though I’m chasing after a monster!

For Avynn and I, a day at the park was easily paired with cute dresses/skirts and our new sneakers! This way we transformed our day from shopping, to running around the park!

Our outfits brought me back to the 90’s where I used to throw on a “skort” with my halter top and sneakers!

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